06 August 2008

Spencer's Letter

Spencer is now a political activist! Here's a copy of the letter he sent to all of the state MPs:


My name is Spencer and I am five months old. My mummies are helping me to write this letter because there is some legislation that you have to vote on soon that impacts our family greatly. It is legislation to do with same sex parented families, access to assisted reproductive technology, adoption and surrogacy. This legislation will decide whether my family should be called a family and whether both of my mummies should be recognized by the law as my parents.

I don't really know what legislation is and I don't know much about the law - (hey, I'm only five months old) - but I do know about my family.

I have two mummies who love me alot and look after me. One of my mummies is a Firefighter - I want to be just like her when I grow up. My other mummy works on the computer part time from home so she can look after me. We live in a nice house where I have my own bedroom, a nice backyard and lots of toys. My favourite toy is called Ziggy, he's blue and orange and he squeaks and makes me smile and laugh!

Both my mums have been there for me since I was just a little dot on the ultrasound screen. Everyone at the doctor's clinic knew I had two mums. When I was born the doctor took me from my mummy's tummy and both my mummies were there and everyone in the hospital knew I had two mums. Now that I'm here in the world both my mums change my nappies and give me a bottle and pick me up for a hug when I cry. We go to mother's group every Tuesday and basketball on a Wednesday morning and everyone there knows I have two mums. We even go to Rainbow Playgroup every month where all the kids have two mums - and some have two dads!!

I don't really know why the law doesn't understand that I have two mums - everyone else does and they don't seem to mind!

As well as my two mums, in my family I have four aunties and four uncles and eight cousins and three grandmas and two grandpas!! Boy, that's a lot of people that love me!! It's a bit long-winded for me to explain who's who and how everyone is related - but that's families for you isn't it? - they come in all shapes and sizes!

Anyway, I hope that you can think about us when you have your vote on the legislation and vote in favour of it. My mummies are very concerned that they don't both have a recognized legal relationship with me and I reckon that I deserve to have my two parents recognized as my parents, this makes me feel safe and secure. It would mean alot to all of us that the legal position of our family reflects reality.

I've attached a picture of us for you so you can see what we look like. We are just a family, like any other! If you want to ask us any questions about our family, we'd be happy to talk to you, just so you can understand how important it is to us all that we have the same rights as everyone else. My mummy Karen's mobile number is XXXX XXX XXX.

I better go now, mum says I need to go and have a nap.

Thank you for reading about my family!

From Spencer

P.S. I've attached a picture of me and Ziggy too!


Kelly & Sam Pilgrim-Byrne said...

Absolutely brilliant! I'd like to blog about this on our site and link to it if that's okay with you?

Let me know.

Kel (from The Muriels and EB)

Anonymous said...

I've been sucked into your blog for the better part of the day today. Having a son myself it took some time :)

Your whole story just captured me. I actually cried when I read the pregnancy result. I called my friend and told her to "have a word" haha.

Our stories are very different but somewhat the same. I'm a mommy to a 5 year old boy. 29 myself and just finding out who I am and wondering what it all means and how to be a lesbian Mum. All the little things you said at each stage of pregnancy and childbirth and beyond just rang so true :)

But that was a long winded way of saying that this particular blog post reaaaaally got me :) So well written, and powerful...and true.

I think I will come back and reread it often.

Thanks :)